2022 end comes nearer each day and it was nice
to look back and realize what this year had taught me. I started the year with
COVID and might end it with hypertension diagnosis but it would stop me from
realizing some thoughts that made me stunned and paused for a while, “Hey, like
what - ?”
So let me share to you what I
learned this year.
1. 1. There’s nothing bad from saying no.
Before saying no is a big deal to me. Like I
can’t say no, because it feels like I’m becoming a monster I promised myself I
won’t become, so saying no is absolutely a hard discussion for me. But with the
disappointments and heart aches, the process taught me how to say no. And it
was not that hard to do. I realized that saying “no” is a self care. It is
setting a boundary from yourself and other people from entering your personal
space. And the more I say no to something or someone, the more I realized my
worth.
2. 2.Your people will not put you on a
situation that you can’t defend yourself.
This was something I learned from 2021, but
can’t really apply this year. With my gullibility and naïve traits, I ended up
trusting too much which leads me to more troubles. One thing I realized, if
that people are your friends, they will be the one who will defend you from
destructive allegations and your back from rumors. They will not put you on a
situation that you can’t defend yourself because defending yourself means
breaking other people’s heart and trust. They are willing to clear the
misunderstanding with you and not to stab you more at your back. Because true
friends support and has everyone’s back despite of the issues and conflicts.
3. 3. Not everyone will put the same
effort as you do.
The most annoying thing ever. You can be nice
and kind, but not everyone will be the same to you. It is like the total
opposite of the “what comes around, goes around.” I remembered sacrificing
myself just to be with someone and the vibe just not coming back. Like you
know, the same vibe is not just there. He can’t return the same spirit and
ambiance back. So now, I’m being a little picky with whom I spent my day with.
I wanna be with people who appreciate my worth. And just when I am a
convenience to them.
4. 4. Don’t give your best to much,
because not everyone will reciprocate it.
The old saying said “Give your best.” For me
it’s very circumstantial. You can be nice and kind to everyone, but giving your
best to strangers too much are like giving the best free taste away. Not
everyone you meet meant to stay in your life forever, so please put a boundary
what energy you give and vibe with other people. Don’t be an open book to
everyone.
5. 5. Never settle for less.
When you give your all out best, never settle
for the bare minimum. Remember that you deserve the whole wide world to be
happy, and knowing your worth is very important. Walk away when respect is not
served because you don’ deserve that treatment and find your place where you
are worth a gold. You are priceless diamond and everyone in the world should
know that.
xx.
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